In his sermon this past Sunday, our guest Victor McCullough referred to Henri Nouwen's book The Wounded Healer. Here is something of what Nouwen says there:
Nobody escapes being wounded. We all are wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. The main question is not “How can we hide our wounds?” so we don't have to be embarrassed but “How can we put our woundedness in the service of others?” When our wounds cease to be a source of shame and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.
Our wounds, or scars, are not to be simply a way of having empathy with others' wounds. They are what forms us into people who are reflective, compassionate, open to others despite their pain. We are not to compare wounds with others, but to get to where we can see other's wounds because we have seen our own, have experienced pain ourselves.
In this way, the wounds make us stronger, by making us aware. They make us stronger by knowing
imperfection. They make us stronger by reminding us of what we have come through, and giving us the knowledge that we can do hard things.